50 Shades of Grey...My take on it

It was bound to happen...I jumped on the "mommy porn" train. All this hype about a book. I had to read it for myself.

I wasn't going to read it at all, but with all the talk about it being "mommy porn" I guess since I am a mom I had to read it, for the good of all moms...hahah.

I am almost done with the second book and it had me thinking...why is this such a hot topic. Sex has always been there, and somewhat out in the open, especially with Dr. Ruth and her sex talk back in the 80's (if you don't know who Dr. Ruth is, you probably shouldn't be reading this book). Many books about it have been written and read for decades, why all of a sudden is this book such a hot topic??

I didn't start to reading these books to spice up my marriage,  I am extremely happy with what I have, and I really wasn't sure what to expect when I started to read it. Was it going to be too uncomfortable for me to read, being all about a dominate and submissive relationship?? Did I really want to read about a topic that I have no interest in. Would it peak my interest after I read them??

I bought the book and it sat in my car for probably a good month or two.
OK OK I will start reading it...and I have to say, like many other women have said, I couldn't put it down.....I found myself reading it and only expecting to read a couple of chapters then realizing that it's 2 hours later, I haven't started dinner and the laundry needs folding.....back to reality.

I am not here to discuss the details of the book,  if you want details read it for yourself. I am giving you my take on why I think it is so popular with moms/ women. This is strictly my opinion and take it for what you want, I am not a literary expert and do not have a PHD in anything I am just a 41 year old mom of 3. There, that should cover the basics.

I remember being like Anastasia Steele, young innocent not looking for love but stumbling upon it, and almost 22 years later I am still very much in love with my husband. Most times when a man and a woman start dating the man is out to impress the woman...spends a little more, weather it be on great food at a wonderful restaurant,  flowers delivered to your doorstep, or a gift for no special reason. Every woman loves the attention. When I started dating my husband he did these same things and I remember feeling great about it. After being married for 18 years and having 3 children, working full time jobs, sometimes with opposite schedules, he still finds the time to do special things for me, but its not as often as when we were younger and dating. Our time is dedicated to our children, and honestly I wouldn't want it any other way.

So here comes this book, and putting all the sex aside, oh and the BDSM it is a nice love story in a way. If you have read the book, put yourself in Anastasia's shoes, young and inexperienced and suddenly....a gorgeous man who happens to be a billionaire thinks you are the most beautiful thing since sliced bread, and will do anything to keep you by his side, and spends countless amounts of money at the drop of a dime, just for you. What woman wouldn't want to be whisked away in a helicopter, or on a whim taken on a glider plane to watch the sunrise. Sure Christian Grey has issues but as the saying goes love is blind. But again I am not discussing the details of the book you'll have to read it for yourself.

Romance, it's what every woman wants, no matter her age or marital status. Now don't get me wrong, I am not saying for every man to go and spend money above his means, but maybe all we need is a little romance and that can be as simple as sending the kids to spend the night with grandparents or friends and then cooking your wife dinner and spending a night enjoying each others company (if you stink at cooking takeout is OK too). How about getting her favorite flowers, just because it's Tuesday. My favorite... writing a love note, I would rather a Birthday card or an Anniversary card with a hand written note on the inside than a gift any day!

So there's my take on 50 Shades of Grey...romance, being swept off your feet. Falling in love for the first time or all over again.If the books inspire you to try something new go for it, but don't be lead by a book, create your own romance.

I know this....In My Life romantic books will come and go but my romance with my husband will last a lifetime.

True love is not the number of kissesor how often you get them, true love is the feeling that still lingers long after the kiss is over.